{"id":1193,"date":"2021-04-17T09:41:58","date_gmt":"2021-04-17T07:41:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/costops.com\/index.php\/2021\/04\/17\/ive-lost-my-conversational-mojo-can-i-relearn-the-art-of-small-talk\/"},"modified":"2021-04-17T09:41:58","modified_gmt":"2021-04-17T07:41:58","slug":"ive-lost-my-conversational-mojo-can-i-relearn-the-art-of-small-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/costops.com\/index.php\/2021\/04\/17\/ive-lost-my-conversational-mojo-can-i-relearn-the-art-of-small-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"I\u2019ve lost my conversational mojo \u2013 can I relearn the art of small talk?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Been up to much lately? After a year of isolation, I\u2019ve forgotten how to talk to people \u2013 but help is at hand<\/p>\n

A good friend of mine, who started a new job six months ago, is about to meet his colleagues face to face for the first time. They have been buddied up in pairs to make socialisation less daunting, he said. It sounded like breeding pandas, or children being dropped off at summer camp, rather than grownups working in the civil service. Having interacted only through remote meetings, he knows everything about their interior decor and nothing about them. Small talk\u2019s going to be weird, he texted me. A few seconds later, my phone buzzed. \u201cWhat is<\/em> small talk again?\u201d<\/p>\n

Damned if I know. I\u2019ve lost my conversational mojo, too. I used to pride myself on being a good listener, quick on my feet, self-aware. But I\u2019ve noticed signs that I\u2019m slipping. The first time someone asked how I was, after months of social isolation, I forgot to reply. I\u2019d grown accustomed to seeing conversations as things that happened on TV, that didn\u2019t involve me. When I did speak, my throat gurgled before the words emerged, like taps being run for the first time in a holiday home. The last time someone initiated a conversation with me, I babbled for eight minutes about how I\u2019d been growing pineapples from other pineapples. I rambled on about water rooting, suckers and slips, the available research on crown splitting as observed in the Niger delta. My friend was not interested in pineapples. He had only asked what I\u2019d been up to. The self\u2011evident answer was, \u201cnot enough\u201d.<\/p>\n

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\nBeen up to much lately? After a year of isolation, I\u2019ve forgotten how to talk to people \u2013 but help is at hand
\nA good friend of mine, who started a new job six months ago, is about to meet his colleagues face to face for the first time. They have been buddied up in pairs to make socialisation less daunting, he said. It sounded like breeding pandas, or children being dropped off at summer camp, rather than grownups working in the civil service. Having interacted only through remote meetings, he knows everything about their interior decor and nothing about them. Small talk\u2019s going to be weird, he texted me. A few seconds later, my phone buzzed. \u201cWhat is small talk again?\u201d
\nDamned if I know. I\u2019ve lost my conversational mojo, too. I used to pride myself on being a good listener, quick on my feet, self-aware. But I\u2019ve noticed signs that I\u2019m slipping. The first time someone asked how I was, after months of social isolation, I forgot to reply. I\u2019d grown accustomed to seeing conversations as things that happened on TV, that didn\u2019t involve me. When I did speak, my throat gurgled before the words emerged, like taps being run for the first time in a holiday home. The last time someone initiated a conversation with me, I babbled for eight minutes about how I\u2019d been growing pineapples from other pineapples. I rambled on about water rooting, suckers and slips, the available research on crown splitting as observed in the Niger delta. My friend was not interested in pineapples. He had only asked what I\u2019d been up to. The self\u2011evident answer was, \u201cnot enough\u201d. Continue reading…Technology | The Guardian<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Been up to much lately? After a year of isolation, I\u2019ve forgotten how to talk to people \u2013 but help is at hand A good friend of mine, who started a new job six months ago, is about to meet his colleagues face to face for the first time. They have been buddied up in …<\/p>\n

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