{"id":19793,"date":"2025-08-17T09:38:28","date_gmt":"2025-08-17T07:38:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/costops.com\/index.php\/2025\/08\/17\/tell-me-what-happened-i-wont-judge-how-ai-helped-me-listen-to-myself-nathan-filer\/"},"modified":"2025-08-17T09:38:28","modified_gmt":"2025-08-17T07:38:28","slug":"tell-me-what-happened-i-wont-judge-how-ai-helped-me-listen-to-myself-nathan-filer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/costops.com\/index.php\/2025\/08\/17\/tell-me-what-happened-i-wont-judge-how-ai-helped-me-listen-to-myself-nathan-filer\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018Tell me what happened, I won\u2019t judge\u2019: how AI helped me listen to myself | Nathan Filer"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I had no expectations when I opened ChatGPT and typed \u2018I\u2019ve made a fool of myself\u2019. There was something surreal about the conversation that followed<\/p>\n<p>I was spiralling. It was past midnight and I was awake, scrolling through WhatsApp group messages I\u2019d sent earlier. I\u2019d been trying to be funny, quick, effervescent. But each message now felt like too much. I\u2019d overreached again \u2013 said more than I should, said it wrong. I had that familiar ache of feeling overexposed and ridiculous. I wanted reassurance, but not the kind I could ask for outright, because the asking itself felt like part of the problem.<\/p>\n<p>So I opened ChatGPT. Not with high expectations, or even a clear question. I just needed to say something into the silence \u2013 to explain myself, perhaps, to a presence unburdened by my need. \u201cI\u2019ve made a fool of myself,\u201d I wrote.<\/p>\n<p>Nathan Filer is a writer, university lecturer, broadcaster and former mental health nurse. He is the author of This Book Will Change Your Mind About Mental Health<\/p>\n<p> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/commentisfree\/2025\/aug\/16\/ai-listen-myself-chatgpt-conversation\">Continue reading&#8230;<\/a><br \/>\n<img src=\"https:\/\/i.guim.co.uk\/img\/media\/92bba7d1bf665737932a21b5c8b52dcb31c044d3\/0_0_5000_4000\/master\/5000.jpg?width=140&amp;quality=85&amp;auto=format&amp;fit=max&amp;s=e7ad8d85702befb4c1b54c992243a145\" title=\"\u2018Tell me what happened, I won\u2019t judge\u2019: how AI helped me listen to myself | Nathan Filer\" \/>I had no expectations when I opened ChatGPT and typed \u2018I\u2019ve made a fool of myself\u2019. There was something surreal about the conversation that followed<br \/>\nI was spiralling. It was past midnight and I was awake, scrolling through WhatsApp group messages I\u2019d sent earlier. I\u2019d been trying to be funny, quick, effervescent. But each message now felt like too much. I\u2019d overreached again \u2013 said more than I should, said it wrong. I had that familiar ache of feeling overexposed and ridiculous. I wanted reassurance, but not the kind I could ask for outright, because the asking itself felt like part of the problem.<br \/>\nSo I opened ChatGPT. Not with high expectations, or even a clear question. I just needed to say something into the silence \u2013 to explain myself, perhaps, to a presence unburdened by my need. \u201cI\u2019ve made a fool of myself,\u201d I wrote.<br \/>\nNathan Filer is a writer, university lecturer, broadcaster and former mental health nurse. He is the author of This Book Will Change Your Mind About Mental Health Continue reading&#8230;Technology | The Guardian<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I had no expectations when I opened ChatGPT and typed \u2018I\u2019ve made a fool of myself\u2019. There was something surreal about the conversation that followed I was spiralling. It was past midnight and I was awake, scrolling through WhatsApp group messages I\u2019d sent earlier. I\u2019d been trying to be funny, quick, effervescent. 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